Helpful Steps in Writing Your EHE Autobiography?
Suzanne V. Brown
Why Write Your EHE Autobiography?
Think of your life as a whole tapestry of inner and outer events. Now, by concentrating on the inner, subjective side of your life (not typical in our culture), an overall pattern begins to emerge—one that is marked by threads of various personally meaningful events, feelings, connections, and outcomes. When you begin to tie together these colorful threads based on meaning and meaningfulness into your autobiography, you gain a fresh perspective on your life. In essence, you gain a larger new vision of your uniqueness, your birthright, your full human potential. By more fully envisioning your personal tapestry, you can then begin to follow these threads, recognize your own pattern, and see how your life may play a significant part in an even larger overall tapestry. Perhaps, for the first time in your life, you may gain a greater appreciation of who you genuinely are, where you have been, and where you are going.
Note: the act of writing an EHE autobiography serves as a stimulus to the recollection of forgotten events, and it requires several days or even weeks to recall many significant experiences, which once you are working on the autobiography, will spring to mind even when you are engaged in other activities, including dreams. You may also see fresh connections between experiences and life events. These new insights should be incorporated in your autobiography and will give the process of writing it a sense of flow. The main "rule" to keep in mind is not to force the writing yet to be disciplined about working on it. Each time you sit down to it, reread what you have written. In doing so new experiences and connections are likely to come to mind. Do not set a limit as to how long it will take to write it, but work at it as your schedule and inclination permits, until you feel it is "done for now."
The steps set forth below are geared to a period of writing that will take place over many days, but it is important not to let it go on indefinitely. You need to have a completed version of your EHE autobiography "to date." It is to be expected that at some later date you will again add to it, modify it, extend it. and even reinterpret it, if that feels "right’ to you.
Suggestions for Writing Your EHE Autobiography
Your EHE autobiography or personal written narrative begins with the recollection of an Exceptional Experience (EE) or perhaps even an EHE that . This may be an EE from your earliest childhood memory, one that happened more recently, the only one you can recall in your life, one you feel most comfortable writing about, or the one you consider the most spectacular. At this point, it is most important to just begin:
- Jot down a few reminder notes about that particular experience. Go back into time and try to relive the circumstances leading up to that EE, describe in a few sentences what happened, what you sensed, and how you felt, who was with you (if anyone), your sense of time, and whatever feels important for you to recall.
- Now follow that one account a bit further in time. Soon after it was over, how did you feel and what did you do? Was it overall exhilarating, frightening, incomprehensible, insightful, etc.? Did this experience change you in anyway? Did you tell anyone about it? How did s/he react? How did another's reaction effect your assessment and feelings of the experience? Did it change the way you originally understood the EE?
- In retrospect, looking back on that whole situation, why was it meaningful to you? What makes this experience important to write about? How does/ does not this particular experience factor in your overall life today?
NOTE: You have just created a framework for writing an EHE account. At this point, the EE may become an EHE.
- Next, freely begin to brainstorm, jotting down other EEs in your life as they come to you. Over 100 different kinds of Exceptional Experiences have been noted, ranging from the unusual (déjà vu, synchronicity) to the sublime (miracles, mystical), and all areas in between (telepathic, precognitive, out-of-body, "otherworldly" encounter, and so on). You may want to start with a specific cluster or type of EE, go back to your childhood, or recall other events which seemed to catch your intuitive-attention. The more you can recall and jot down for future reference and reflection, the better.
- Now, go back and copy what you have written for each EE on a separate page. Look at each EE page as a separate account and repeat steps 1-3.
- Relax, and take a few extra minutes to review what you have written, jotting down any additional detail, insights, meaning which may come to mind. Look at what you have written, relive those experiences to their fullest, try to understand what they may be showing you beyond the everyday.
NOTE: At this point you have a listing of several EE/EHE accounts and have begun the framework for your EHE Autobiography.
- Take a break from the intensity and go back to the everyday for a while. You have begun to acknowledge your own story and the importance of EEs. You have now also set the "incubation/ background" process in motion and further connections may come to you without conscious directed effort.
- Now pay particular attention to dreams, coincidences, intuitive hunches, and flashes of insight during this incubation time. Add these to your narrative. Anything and everything is pertinent at this point. Write them down, savor them, try to understand what they are suggesting overall.
- After several days, during a quiet time, review all that you have written. Begin to write your overall narrative, paying special attention to the similarities, the connections, and also the contrasts and shadings.
- Remember that the EHE Autobiography is an evolving narrative, based on those experiences that promote awe, meaning, and wonder in our lives. Put your story aside for a while and come back to it again, and then again. Additional insights and new experiences will come to you. In this ongoing process of turning our life tapestry innerside-out, you discover your deeper nature, your purpose, your connections, and begin to find your way back to the tapestry of All-Life.